Asking for consent from your vagina?!
First of all consent is an absolute must! Sharing your body with somebody else (or somebodies, whatever your jam is babe!) needs to of course come with permission and approval.
This topic however is slightly different…it’s asking YOURSELF for consent.
Weird concept I know…but hear me out.
I first heard of this concept of asking yourself for consent from Layla Martin and I liked it!
As women we are so often penetrated when we aren’t quite ready which can cause some pain, discomfort and even store emotions into your vagina. In sex a woman definitely needs a little warming up, which can be a very different process for each woman. Some like a physical stimulation, mental stimulation, spiritual stimulation, whatever it is that gets your juices flowing (literally and figuratively) that accelerates your sexual desire. But if we are penetrated before being ready it can cause a potential disconnect within our body.
In our personal practice, whether you call this masturbation, self-love practice, self-pleasure practice etc., asking your vagina if she wants to participate in that moment can really build a beautiful sense of personal power and ownership over your own body, as well as create a deeper body connection. Let me tell you, SHE WANTS TO CONNECT WITH YOU!
It can also help to avoid confused feelings afterwards such as sexual regret or thinking that your body has let you down and not performed in a certain way, when really she just wasn’t ready or didn’t want it in that moment.
Before your practice or whatever sexual activity you’re getting up to, check in with your vagina first. Ask her if she is wanting to participate and receive a very clear “Yes” or “No” and honour that answer. If it’s a “Maybe” check in if there is something further you need before continuing or postponing your practice.
Getting into this habit can be super powerful for any female that has experienced sexual trauma in the sense of giving yourself personal power and honouring your choice.